Is There Need to Invest Financially in a Campus Relationship?

TIP Weekly Debate

BY ROBERT EMMANUEL OWINY

WE LIVE in an era where every thing has got its price, yes for this reason there is no running away from using money in the process of finding and or maintaining a love partner.

But a love affair is like a business enterprise under the management of two people, where the capital and profits are equally shared between the two owners. If this is agreed, there is no way one should fail to find good reason in spending money in a love deal, more so at the highest institution of learning where every one knows the role money plays in promoting growth.

Like a business venture, for a love affair to thrive, lovers need to meet operational expenses. They should therefore have some cash to do such things as making calls, going for outing – could be for a movie show, a dance, go shopping for each other, or buy gifts like birthday cards, valentine presents and the like. Here the giving and receiving should really balance between the two parties if the ideal situation for people who care about each other is to be achieved.

However the disastrous situation on the ground is that Campus ladies don’t believe that love grows by sharing, they wrongly and permanently take it that a relationship grows through giving by a boy and receiving by a girl – this is the major cause of accidents in this industry. University ladies concentrate on exploiting and cheating their boyfriends without any fear not even favour because they unreasonably crave for ‘loaded’ guys.

I believe with cost sharing things can be pleasant, but where a girl leaves every thing in the hands of a boy it becomes terrible. This statement: “I need a guy who is ready to invest in me” is very common in the mouths of university ladies. This means, genuine love is not what they want they fancy material love.

My view is that a girl should finance a boy if her pocket allows and a boy similarly. The erroneous belief that boys are always to fund every thing, cannot work at Campus. For instance if I come from a very poor family deep in Nakapiripirit district, and Tracy my fiancé is a minister’s daughter, will it be logical for her to rely on me for every monetary need of our rapport?

Genuine lovers should always embrace cost sharing and understand each other. The conformist idea of putting female persons in the same spot with children is no more in the contemporary world. What is the crusade for women empowerment for? Campus ladies should interpret this faster!

Remember the bottom line remains: with today’s sky high cost of living, there is no way you can expect your partner to continue trusting you with a padlock at your pocket. As such, it is only circumspect (yes, reach out for the dictionary) for one to yearn for a date whose status equals his or hers because to strengthen the affection we must spend, and to make it last we must share the cost.